Wednesday, August 14, 2013

Facebook


I quit Facebook a couple of months ago. It’s been about 3 months now since I deactivated my Facebook account.

I’ve quit Facebook a couple of times last year before – once I was off it for 2 months, the second time for maybe six weeks.

Here are my reasons for doing so.

1.     Facebook was taking up too much time.
2.     I wanted to spend my time more productively.
3.     I started feeling like my privacy was being invaded. Yes, this might be a bit silly, since I can control exactly what I want people to see, and who to see it at that.  But I started thinking – now that we have so much access to social media and we spend so much time on it, I feel like we’ve diluted some essence to real life.

What I mean by point number 3 is this :

There are so many times when I’m out with my friends and we’re at some social gathering and what are people doing?

Scrolling through Facebook.

Don’t get me wrong. Facebook is great. It’s great to keep in touch. It’s great when you’re bored. But what I feel is not great about it is when it eats too much into your real life and it starts taking away the warmth and essence of real friendships.

Also, Facebook is great for stalking.

To be honest, I don’t stalk on Facebook. Anymore. Hehe. I used to stalk when I was a lot younger, say four years ago. Honestly, the only reason I stopped is because I really didn’t like what I found out.

I also read this article on how Facebook causes a lot of FOMO for young people nowadays. If you don’t know what FOMO is, look it up. Ok, if you’re lazy, it stands for Fear Of Missing Out.

And I have to agree, subconsciously I think that it does affect me.

Case in point. Everyone my age is getting married now or having a baby. Good for them. To be honest, I never really thought about it. I always thought when the time comes, then the time comes. But when I constantly have my news feed bombarded with newborns and ROMs – it stresses me out. What am I doing wrong? Should I be popping a baby out? Everyone’s doing it, should I be jumping on the bambino bandwagon too?

It used to be about everyone being at some big party or club. Then, it was ‘Why am I not out? Why am I not happening enough?’

Sometimes now it’s about travelling. I especially get super jealous when I see people in Japan, because I love that country to bits. Honestly, seeing photos of people happy in Japan makes me very annoyed, because I’m not there.

So since Facebook was giving me more negative feelings that positive ones, I decided to cut it out of my life.

I like the results, so far. You might say it’s a little hypocritical, me starting up a blog and quitting Facebook. Maybe. Ironic, even. But what I like about blogging is that it’s an avenue for me to write. That people can’t tag me in pictures. That it’s my own space, and it doesn’t invade anyone or annoy anyone (if you don’t like my blog, you don’t have to visit it, as opposed to if I’m your Facebook friend and my notifications are constantly popping up in your feed.)

The point is, I’m deriving a lot of enjoyment from blogging now. As opposed to Facebook, I’m deriving a lot of stress from it.

I don’t know how much longer I will be off Facebook. But for now, I’m enjoying very much my life without it. 

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