Tuesday, December 24, 2013


When did it become okay to be so self absorbed and narcissistic?
Don't you think the world is becoming a little bit of a shallow and vain place - to the point where we've accepted selfies as a norm, don't blink an eyelid at a girl snapping away at herself - and, for some of us, encourage this kind of behaviour?

Hey, I'm not totally innocent too. I've done my fair share of selfies. And, to be honest, I expect a selfie to be something that a younger person is more into, as opposed to an older one. (Don't you grow out of it?)

But here's the thing - social media, be it Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, you name it - these are all portals for you to unleash your inner narcissist. It's the time for you to post the best aspects of your life, to show how good looking you are, how many parties you attend, how much alcohol you're guzzling, how much travelling you're doing.


Isn't it a privilege, your life? Isn't your life something a little special and precious, that deserves a modicum of mystery, at the very least least? You share the most important things about yourself with your closest friends and family - not to the 700 people on your Facebook list, 500 of them which you haven't seen in the last 10 years. (At least, for my Facebook anyway).

It's not just about selfies. It's about snapping a picture of everything you eat. After the 40th latte art, I don't care anymore. And, PS, you're drinking too much coffee.

Why do we need so much validation? What is it about us that craves other people clicking on the 'Like' button. And, when did it become okay for us to feel like this?

i once went off Facebook for about 3 months. Those were 3 good months, I was more productive, I didn't care what other people were doing, and I didn't care to share either what I was doing. What I learnt, during those 3 months, is that I felt a little more comfortable knowing I was doing my own thing, and not advertising it on Facebook. I don't need a 'Like' to tell me what I'm doing is right. If I like it, I damn well can 'Like' it myself - and physically, not only in a digital sphere of things. A colleague of mine thought I was crazy. She's much older than me and thought I was going through a midlife crisis. Getting off Facebook is by no means going through a midlife crisis. It's actually freeing large chunks of time for yourself, and it enables you to focus on what's really important in life and what you want to do.

I've also started hating people who take pictures nonstop at social gatherings. Sure, you take a couple of snaps to remember the moment. But when the entire evening is spent with you photographing the food, the plates, the chairs, the deco, people together in various permutations - it ruins the evening. You might argue you're doing all the work and therefore I shouldn't complain - but it bugs me. It annoys me. You can't have a conversation with a person who is glued to a camera (or Iphone, pick your weapon). And unless it's a freaking wedding, you don't need to have so many goddamn pictures just when you're out having a meal together.

Also, I noticed something on my Facebook. There are lots of large gatherings with 20 people or so, and everyone crams together for a group photo. Honestly...there isn't a story to this photo anymore. It just becomes a whole bunch of random people in a house to commemorate the meet up. They are all posed and staged photos - no real photos with people candidly laughing or enjoying themselves. What I'm trying to say, is that the essence of the photo is now lost.

That being said, am I being a hypocrite? I take a lot of selfies to send to my boyfriend, who lives in a different freaking continent. Sure, I don't post them up, but does the avenue of you doing it really matter?

Food for thought.

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