Tuesday, June 2, 2015

I HATE Generalizations

"All women want a rich husband."
"All Asian women want to date a white guy." (AHEM, this is for you!)
"All men are weak."
"Men can't help themselves."

You know what, guys?
I am SO sick of generalisations.
First of all, generalisations are stupid. They're these big, sweeping statements that are just designed to excuse bad behaviour, which is pathetic in my opinion. And honestly, who the hell, in this day and age, is still dumb enough to make sweeping statements that encompass 'all'?

The beauty about today's world is that never before has individualism been so fiercely embraced. Sure, we're still collective as a society and we still seek approval and a percentage of us still find the need to conform to the standards society sets. In all honesty, I think there's nothing wrong with that. Don't get me started on 'hipsters' who are trying so hard to be cool (HELLO MAINSTREAM) that they've completely made a joke of themselves. I have real hipster friends who are really into the whole indie music scene and doing their own thing, and I have complete respect for them. But sorry, I don't have any respect for people who just dress like what they think is 'hipster' and act like they're the genuine thing. Maybe this is hypocritical - if I'm so OK with everyone conforming to society's standards, and if being hipster is now in, it should be OK - but I feel that the whole point of being a hipster is being different because you really are, or you really do have those preferences a hipster has, and not just because you want to be labelled a goddamn hipster.

FYI I'm not a hipster. I'm very mainstream.

I digress, as usual. Now, the reason why I don't agree to generalisations is that because it's just not true anymore. A friend of mine brought up a point today, the reason why people make these generalisations is because it is their reality. For example, if you grow up and are constantly being cheated on, I think it makes sense you'd think 'All men cheat'. While that isn't the worldwide truth, it's YOUR truth. 

I've had a lot of shit experiences that have really turned me off people, and I used to think 'All people are huge, major disappointments.' Well you know what? If I keep saying that, it becomes true. It's also a self fulfilling prophecy. And it's not true. People are not major disappointments. I've met so many people in life who have taught me so much about growth. I've had people inspire me to really become a nicer person, like this guy in my university days named Kit. He was the NICEST guy ever, he would always go out of his way to help, he always had a smile on his face, and dammit, he was just one of the most genuine people I knew. He's someone that actually made me think - hmm. Maybe I should stop being so negative and be a nicer person, because he seems plenty happy about it. 

I shouldn't waste so much time about this, but I have to say it feels so good to rant and pound away on my keyboard!

So yeah, people. Stop generalising. Stop making sweeping statements. Stop acting like it's OK to justify bad behaviour, or there's an excuse to be not so nice. If you want to continue making sweeping statements, make some nice ones, damn it. Like, all girls are peaches. Or, all men are huggybuns. Whatever, man! 

We need a bit more positivity in this world. 

Monday, June 1, 2015

I Met Rachel Yamagata!

Last Friday, I went for a Rachel Yamagata concert in Esplanade.

The first song I heard and loved of hers was 'Worn Me Down' when I was still in university. Then I'd gotten introduced to her Happenstance album, which is just this haunting, beautiful album. I listened to it after a breakup, and every word she said seemed to be everything I felt. I felt like, Goddamit woman, why do you know how much pain I feel!

Anyway, back to Esplanade - she's just ridiculously talented. I think my favourite part of the whole show was when she sang a cappella. The whole theatre was just silent and all you could hear was her throaty, husky voice filling the place. Her voice is SO, SO, SO BEAUTIFUL.

She's really funny and personable and incredibly likeable. She switched up from being funny and entertaining to singing these heart wrenching songs. At the end, she came out for the Encore and I was one of the people yelling 'Reason Why' when she asked what we would like her to sing. That's one of my most favourite songs in the world, and it's just a crazy feeling to watch her sing it.

There was an autograph session after so we waited in line to see her. It took 2 hours, and there weren't that many people ahead of us, maybe 60 or so, but the reason why it took so long was because she really took the time out to talk to everyone. I don't think it helps that everyone (including me) starts pouring out their life story to he. She's just incredibly sympathetic and warm, and damn it, she's just incredible.

Here's proof we met!!!

Can't wait for her to come back!

Jimmy Choo's On 40%

Hi blog,

I went to Siam Paragon two days ago and discovered Jimmy Choo was on sale.

40%, to be exact, for every shoe that had a blessed green sticker on it.

I tried a pair on that I really liked, a gold, shimmery pair of wedges that made my feet look immediately expensive.

I also got an immediate blister, but that's besides the point.

It cost about 500SGD after the discount, which in my head I was yelling 'BARGAIN!'

I've never had a pair of Jimmy Choos before. Wouldn't it be nice to say I owned one? It would be like a mark of saying I've made it in the world!

Then I thought of all the hardship people have in the world. People not even far from me, for example the Rohingyas who are crammed like cattle in wooden pens as they fight to survive.

And I thought, how much better I could spend that money instead of a damned pair of shoes.

How I've really lost a lot of sense of what's important in life and have a completely misplaced idea of the value of money.

And so I left.